I think there are some of Us who hope or believe that our Heart and Soul (who we are on the inside) can reflect in some or many ways, our outward appearance ... our face and hair and clothes and an unending list of "whatevers" ... that is, how we perceive how others perceive our outward appearance ... Our "Outside" defines our "Inside".

So I say, the very first place to acknowledge who you are is on the physical level, take inventory ... then rate each of those inventoried items from 1-5 ... and notice which emotions that you connect to in the moment. a) Rate once for how it is for you and b) once for how you think others would rate it.