PoV Video Clips
Journey-1 (PoV)
The Power of Vulnerability
with Brené Brown
Purpose: balance your consciousness with the emotional side of life.
About the "Power of Vulnerability" TED Talk
In this class, we will be watching 9 video clips from the TED Talk, "Power of Vulnerability" by Dr. Brené Brown. These clips share what she found from her years of research on "human connection" ... our ability to empathize, belong, and love.
In this poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her well-documented research that sent her on a personal quest to not only understand herself ... but to understand the reality of how human connection itself works.
Who is Brené Brown?
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Born 1965
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She is a professor at the Univ of Houston … and has her Master's Degree in Social Work and her Doctorate in Philosophy.
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She considers herself a researcher and storyteller who's spent her career studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy.
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Authored multiple books including five New York Times best-sellers.
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Her TED talk is one of the top five most-viewed TED Talks in the world.
Vulnerability Definitions
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Vulnerability means there is a willingness to share one’s emotional pain.
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Vulnerability can also refer to a person's openness and willingness to risk being hurt emotionally, as in being willing to love and be loved and to accept the emotional risks that go with it.
Clip #1 Connection (0:54)
Definition: connected with others in kinship, professional, spiritual or emotional ways
Take-aways from Clip #1 - Connection
Ronnie's thoughts:
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Connection is why we are here.
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Connection gives purpose and meaning to life.
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It is how we are wired.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #2 Shame (2:10)
Definition: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another
Take-aways from Clip #2 - Shame
Ronnie's takeaways:
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When people were asked about Love ... they talked about heartache.
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When people were asked about belonging
… they spoke of the pain of being excluded. -
When people were asked about Connection … they spoke of disconnection.
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Why did they feel this way? … they felt shame and fear.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #3 Worthiness (1:16)
Definition: the fact or quality of having great or adequate merit, character, or value
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #3 - Worthiness
Ronnie's takeaways:
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People who have a strong sense of love and belonging feel they are worthy of love and belonging.
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What keeps people out of connection is fear they are not worthy of love and belonging.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #4 Wholehearted (2:05)
Definition: completely and sincerely devoted, determined, or enthusiastic soul marked by complete earnest commitment
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #4 - Wholehearted
Ronnie's takeaways:
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Courage to be imperfect.
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Compassion to be kind to themselves first.
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Connect to others as a result of authenticity.
- They are willing to let go of who they thought they should be.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #5 Embracing Vulnerability (2:04)
Considerations:
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Embracing emotional vulnerability and taking emotional risks can lead to personal growth.
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Letting your guard down and being fully yourself builds self-acceptance and self-esteem, enhances relationships, and improves quality of life.
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Being emotionally vulnerable is a skill you can practice.
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #5 - Embracing Vulnerability
Ronnie's takeaways:
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Those who embraced vulnerability felt what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful.
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Willingness to say “I love you” first.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #6 Numbing Vulnerability (2:38)
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #6 - Numbing Vulnerability
Ronnie's takeaways:
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We struggle with vulnerability and how do we handle it.
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We numb vulnerability and our emotions.
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We try to make uncertainty certain.
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We blame others and external events.
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We can’t selectively numb emotions
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #7 Why We Numb Vulnerability (0:59)
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #7 - Why We Numb Vulnerability
Ronnie's takeaways:
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A need to make everything certain.
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Blame is a way to discharge pain and discomfort.
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #8 Perfection (1:38)
Definition: the quality or state of being perfect such as freedom from fault or defect; also the quality or state of being saintly
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #8 - Perfection
Ronnie's takeaways:
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We want to perfect our children ...
Let our children know that they are worthy of love and belonging. -
We pretend that what we do, does not have an impact on others.
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Be able to say “Sorry”
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Clip #9 We Are Enough (1:19)
Definition: sufficient to meet a need or satisfy a desire
Group Wisdom Circle on Clip #9 - We Are Enough
Ronnie's takeaways:
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Let yourself be deeply seen.
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Love with our whole heart with no guarantee.
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Practice gratitude and joy.
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To feel vulnerable means you are alive.
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“I am enough!”
What insights or questions did this video clip spark and reveal to you?
Full TED Talk Power of Vulnerability Video (20:50)
